Be Brave Be Happy: 5 Tips for an Exciting Inner Journey

It’s time to be brave. It’s time to stop looking ‘out there’ for happiness and start to look inside yourself as that’s where you’ll discover the potential for real peace of mind lies.

It’s about finding happiness in the unconventional, in the bits that we don’t like about ourselves, in the places that scare us and in the realization that we are ultimately responsible for our own happiness, not anyone or anything else.

And the best discovery is that everything you don’t like, don’t want or can’t stand about yourself can be a catalyst for deeper understanding and eventual happiness. You are perfectly poised to be happy, you already have everything you need, you just don’t realise it. We’re too busy living our so called important lives that we miss everything, miss nature’s little gems of wonder and joy, miss the mini personal discoveries, miss those ‘aha’ moments of inspiration and sadly we end up missing ourselves.

However, first you have to be curious enough to want to take a journey like this, to stop and notice what’s going on around you and inside you, to understand the connection between your thoughts and what kind of life you’re living now.  There are risks however, say if you suddenly go from being a mildly melancholic introvert to someone who realizes their life is wonderful and walks around with a big smile on their face, they might lose a few friends and might even seem unrecognizable to themselves!

How prepared are you to let go of old negative habits and conditioning? How brave are you to boldly say “I’m going to be happy regardless of what anyone else thinks!”? Could you really look at your overweight body and say ‘I love you’?

The process is easy to start and when done seriously, can be a wildly exciting ride of inner exploration that’s infinitely more interesting than any reality show on TV.

Here’s a way to get started.

1. Ask yourself “What’s going on?” This simple question opens up a myriad of other questions and allows space for the Universe to start sending you some incredible answers. Be      warned though, you may get some answers you don’t like but that’s a good sign the process is working.
2. Notice everything. Walk  around with all your senses open and really notice life. You’ll be amazed at the little things that you used to ignore before, like a flower growing in a concrete car park etc.
3. Notice the voice in your head (your internal dialogue). Especially notice how you talk about yourself to yourself. It’s amazing how often we put ourselves down just out of pure habit! Just noticing the voice and realising you can change      what it says can bring tremendous freedom. Yay!
4. Avoid saying ‘I wish this wasn’t happening’ or ‘I wish this was different’. When you wish something to be different than what it is, you actually reinforce it and create more      resistance and pain. Let go of the resistance and watch the situation amazingly change.
5. Be gentle on yourself and the world around you. You are a wonderful amazing person complete with all your so called faults, insecurities, flaws and defects. You are perfect the way you are where nothing needs to be changed. After gentle observation, you may decide to make changes, but that’ll be your fully conscious choice and no one else’s.

These points are a great start on the journey to happiness and with curiosity and gentleness you can make this a life’s habit and the best aspect is that everyone, even the planet, can enjoy the benefits.

Be brave be happy.

Tips To Train Children To Be Brave And Independent

Tips To Train Children To Be Brave And Independent

As we know the many benefits if we are brave and independent child (read the previous article), and how to keep the child but the courage and self-reliant? in this paper we try to discuss tips to train children brave and independent. We need to understand that in order to train the bold and independent it should be run simultaneously, and parents as coaches should be aware also that it was not instant, requires a process and time. Now what to do to train it;

 

1.  Cultivate the "basic trust"

Every baby is actually already have a basic trust, but when he was a toddler that a parent should give a positive response to the needs of the child. This can increase the feeling of "trust" of the infants and toddlers will feel safe also in life. Well, feeling safe / secure, toddlers will be more courageous in facing the challenges before him. Self will also be formed as well as completing the problem.

 

2.  Give "responsibility" or belief in children

When we see / feel your child doing something that we think he can do, should we give him a chance to do it yourself. For example when he finished eating and want to put a plate in the sink, we can give him that opportunity and do not forbid it if we feel he's capable of and do not be too worried as well (eg, fear of rupture because it was expensive). Provide an opportunity and trust to him like that can make children brave and independent as well.

 

3.  Instantiate

Children will always follow the example, this also applies when we want our children brave and independent. If parents have such a closed personality does not like doing new things, afraid to face the challenge should not expect too much by having babies grow courageous and independent personality. Suppose we want children to learn to swim while the parents of his own fear into the water, this is certainly something that will produce maximum. By giving a concrete example to the child, the child will understand and the easier he is to imitate it. But if parents do not or could not give a concrete example to your child, you should not show "fear" to the child, either directly or indirectly.

 

4.  Do not force

Everything we do to train the courage and independence of children and the process takes time, it can develop slowly, so do we force the child to master everything that is taught on the spot. For example to train children to always wake up immediately shower, do not force your child to master that moment that, take a few days until smooth. Parents are always accompanied by and remind the child to do the right thing is. But keep in mind that not too often / hard to criticize the child because it would make the guts / courage of the child will go down / down.

5.  Do not overload

Keep in mind that the steps that can be passed by the child is growing gradually, so that the stimulus given to the child should be well adapted to the development of the child. If too much stimulus will make the child confused and will lose the courage to do something.

 

6. Setting appropriate boundaries with

We still have to impose limits what can be done by our children, but the ban is given it must be accompanied by a logical reason. For example when the child is practicing his bravery by playing on the terrace outside the home, parents should not frighten the children with things that are not understandable / logical by the child, for example, says ghost's child will be harassed or bitten by a dog, and so on. Fear will be captured by the brain as the true reality and the child will not dare come out from the terrace of his house, will eventually affect her courage and independence.

 

How to be Brave

Bravery often occurs at moments when you have no time to analyze the danger or the situation that requires the act. By knowing how to be brave you can ensure that when those moments occur you rise to the occasion rather than being a coward. Here are a few things you can do to be brave.

Instructions:

1. Stand up for what you believe. You need to know where you stand on important issues and be prepared to stand up for that belief. You must choose what to believe rather than allowing others to tell you what to believe.

2. Defend others. You can be brave by defending people from bullies, rebutting lies and being friends with someone who is different or doesn't have any friends. The simple fact that you stand beside them is an act of bravery.

3. Tell the truth. One of the hardest things to do is to be honest. It is brave to tell the truth, especially when you know there are consequences to being honest. You must admit when something is your fault and take responsibility for your actions.

4. Know when to walk away. Sometimes the only person who recognizes this is the brave thing to do is you. There is a fine line between stupidity and bravery and you must know the difference.

5. Have courage. You must be able to deny your own desires and put other people's needs before your own. You must have the courage to go against normal societal expectations when the situation calls for you to be brave.

How to Be Brave when Giving a Speech (for those with Stage Fright)

Ok, your standing up on a the stage and giving a speech. Fun, right?
So for you people who dislike talking and are scared of giving speeches. Look no further! My tips will make you brave enough to not have a heart-attack when giving a speech!

Steps

1. Don't be yourself: Yeah, you read that right. Before going and giving your speech, think of a confident role model (like a celebrity), who's great at talking in front of large people. Try to act like him/her and you'll won't be afraid at all! Trust me.
2. Wear sunglasses. If you can, wear sunglasses when you're up saying your speech. Nobody will be able to look into your eyes and you'll feel like nobody's staring you down! Plus they make you look super cool.
3. Take deep breathes before starting your speech
4. Practice in front of your mirror. Also add some hand gestures so you know what you're doing.
5. Take deep breathes before going up.
6. Everyone has stage fright when giving a speech. Just do your best and remember: it doesn't have to be perfect.

Are you brave? Do you allow fear to destroy your dreams and goals?  How to be brave?
If you allowed your fear to destroy your goals, then I’m sure you became frustrated and maybe thought about giving up on your goals and dreams at one point in life. Despite all the challenges that you might have encountered, you have to be brave. With a small shift of your attitude, you can turn fear into bravery and optimism that you can use for your own advantage.

If you are like most people, you will look at what happens to you in life in a negative way. You focus on the challenges instead of the positive. You might hesitate to take any action because of the possibility that you will not succeed.
If you try to switch your focus from the negativity to positive things, you will find the courage and passion to take the necessary steps to achieve your goals. Be optimistic as much as you can and know that fear is what makes you focus on the negative side of things instead of the positive.
As I mentioned in my book “The ultimate guide to achieve your goals” it is important to remember that life doesn’t give you bravery or fear, you are the one who chooses between the two. Life gives you opportunities and it is up to you to use these opportunities to your advantage. Know that each one of us has courage and fear inside of us, it is up to us to choose which one. Which one are you going to choose?

The brave

To learn how to be brave, follow the quick guide below:
1. Start small

No matter how small the steps you take, they are still a sign of bravery and courage. Do you feel shy, for example, to give a speech in front of others? Start taking small steps until you become more brave to stand and talk in front of many people.

2. Practice bravery

 Bravery is like any other skill, it needs to be practiced, so it becomes second nature.

3. Bravery varies from one person to another

 What you consider an act of bravery, others might consider it as normal. Know that each one has different capacities, so you have to know yours.

4. Bravery vs. comfort zone
You have two choices, you either become brave to challenge fear and the obstacles in your life or stay in your comfort zone and achieve nothing. Remember if you decide to become brave, you are on the way to prosperity, progress, and creativity.
Always remember that “The brave man is not he who feels no fear, For that were stupid and irrational; But he, whose noble soul its fear subdues, And bravely dares the danger nature shrinks from.”